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I knew I liked blogger Valeka Cruz when we started flirting on Twitter… then she wrote me an email, telling me about her badass blog, thanking me for doing what we’re doing & explaining how we helped her get through her own tough heartbreak. I loved that she had the confidence to simply ask if she could write a guest blog, so I couldn’t resist. My response? “Absolutely, bombshell!” & I’m so thrilled I said yes. Boy, does she have some crazy powerful things to say. Read on, ladies, and be inspired.
xx,
ellie
Having heard those very words myself a few months ago, I was devastated. My soul was crushed. My spirit was splintered. But, I stepped back for a moment, put down the chocolate and realized that he was right – it wasn’t me. It wasn’t me because I am smart, sexy, talented, confident, amazing and special. The tears seized and I stopped trying to figure out what I could have done differently because there was nothing I could have done differently. I rebounded by reminding myself daily of just how wonderful I was. Some days it was harder to believe than others but I still made it a point of giving myself those affirmations. I realized that if he couldn’t handle all that I am, then he was NOT the one for me.
I still make it a point to tell myself three positive things about myself every day. I carry those things with me throughout my day as a sort of invisible shield from negativity. Hearing those five little words from this gentleman empowered me to reconnect with all the things I love about myself. As I result, I am persuing my lifelong dream of writing a novel. I also rediscovered my confidence and used that boldness to approach one of my favorite websites about being a guest blogger (thank you Pink Kisses!).
Always remember – a true bombshell never shrinks or doubts herself. Hold true to who you are because who you are is a woman filled with all kinds of fabulousity, some realized and some that is yet to be discovered. Find power in your self. And if you happen to hear that hideous phrase from a guy, hold your head up and walk away telling yourself “it’s not ME, it’s you.”
It’s Music Monday & We’re Remembering Whitney
- , 2/20/2012So often when we’re going through a breakup we naturally focus on songs that are written about getting over a guy or trashing his car or seeing him with someone new. It’s an easy way to let go of emotion. But! Here at Pink Kisses, we believe in shifting the focus onto your future instead of your past.
No one has done it better than Whitney Houston in this powerful song:
Thank you, Whitney, for reminding us that the greatest love starts within.
xx
Ellie
Words to live by…
- , 2/17/2012Go on, enjoy the adventures.
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xx
Ellie
Words to Live by on Valentine’s Day
- , 2/14/2012A little bonus love, just for all you bombshells:
xx
Ellie
My Valentine’s gift to you……
- , 2/14/2012Bombshells!
I want you to make me a promise right now. I don’t waste one second thinking about what your life isn’t today… instead, focus on all of the amazing people in your life, all of the adventures you have ahead of you and all of the freedom you have to make your life whatever you want it to be.
My gift to you is this little video with a whole fresh perspective on tackling Valentine’s Day solo:
Your gift to me? Leaving a comment below with one thing you love about your life, right this second.
xx
Ellie
Hey bombshells! My valentine to you comes in the form of a twofer from the outrageously talented Adele. Not only did Adele have an incredible return to the stage after voice surgery just four months ago, but she went on to win 6 Grammy’s, including Album of the Year for 21 (her second album).Did you know that her entire album was written as a way for her to heal from her heartbreak? Love how she left that guy in the dust!
Now, grab a tissue, take a listen to Someone Like You and let it all out.
When Adele stepped on stage last night, she sounded amazing singing one of her best know tunes, Rolling in the Deep. It also just happens to be the very song she wrote the morning after her breakup with her ex. Last night, she also won Record of the Year thanks to that turning point in her life, so dry your tears and let the power of her voice fill you with the hope of all possibilities you have lying ahead.
In her acceptance speech, she even mentions the motivation behind her writing for the album about 40 seconds in…
See ladies? Adele is proof that when life hands you lemonade, you can turn it into a lovely lemondrop martini, 6 Grammys or anything else you choose.
xx
Ellie
Sure, the thought of seeing Mr. Wrong at this very second makes you a little sick to your stomach. That’s ok, you’re human. And, you may actually be one of the few women who never ever has to see him again in your entire life… but, I hate to say, that’s probably not the case.
So, instead of dreading it or avoiding the possibility or choosing not to be prepared, think again. but before you even think again, watch this:
Listen, you’re creating a brilliant new future for yourself. BUT ~ you have to keep in mind that your past might just creep in to your lovely new plan every once in a while. Don’t sweat it.
The goal is to recognize that this person had a big role in your life at one point, but now he doesn’t. Whether the breakup was your fault or his, whether you really want to punch him in the face, ignore him completely or beg for forgiveness, you have to realize that how you act is completely up to you. You can forgive him. You can move on. You can stop torturing yourself with what if. You can do anything you choose.
The conclusion? You have the power to be a total bombshell when you see him. So, what’s your plan?
xx
Ellie
It’s Music Monday… Let’s Get Stronger
- , 2/6/2012Know what? It’s been a while since we played a straight-up pop anthem for a Music Monday. So this week, look at little Kelly Clarkson, all grown up… and check out this awesome first verse:
You know, the bed feels warmer sleeping here alone
You know, I dream in color and do the things I want
You think you got the best of me, think you’ve had the last laugh
Betcha think that everything good is gone
You think you left me broken down, think that I’d come running back
Baby you don’t know me ’cause you’re dead wrong
xx,
Ellie
Fresh Off a Breakup? 3 Things to Do Right Now
- , 2/2/2012We’ve all been there. Dwelling on what could have been instead of moving forward. Feeling stuck and a little bit lost. Not sure exactly who we are any more without that other person in our lives. Take a deep breath. Here are three things you can do right this moment if you’ve just ended a relationship.
{detach & triage}
The most difficult part of a breakup can be, very simply, accepting the fact that it’s over. The most important things you can do? Remove temptation by deleting him from your phone, email and social networks; you’ll thank yourself later when you realize how much you sped up the healing process by refusing to stalk him or reminisce endlessly. Instead, surround yourself with a support network: delegate two friends you’ll call, email, text, or IM when you want to connect with him. Let your friends help. It’s what they’re there for.
{select your symbol}
Even though breakups can be incredibly challenging, there’s something about a split that can actually bring out the best in us. We show the world what we’re made of when we get knocked down and somehow manage to rise back up again… so select a symbol of your strength and keep it in a place where it constantly reminds you what you’re capable of. It can be a meaningful piece of jewelry handed down for generations or a simple fortune cookie slip. Let it be your anchor when you’re having a moment and need help remembering that you’re going to make it through to the other side, stronger and wiser than ever before.
{hit the reset button}
The period after a breakup is the perfect time for redefinition, and switching up our routines can actually help us move forward in more ways than one. Scent is the sense most closely linked to memory, so toss your old perfume or body wash and replace it with something delicious that you’ve never worn before. Make a playlist of songs that make you smile and have nothing to do with your old relationship whatsoever. Rearrange the furniture in your home, indulge in a new set of sheets and add little touches to refresh your nest. If you know you’ll run into your ex at the Starbucks around the corner, start buying your lattes elsewhere. Pick up a new book, workout routine, hobby or volunteer opportunity. Do it now, before you get used to having time on your hands that you used to spend with him. Instead of filling the emptiness with sorrow, fill it with something awesome.
xx
Ellie
Macy Gray seems like she’s been hiding out for a while, but this song hits the nail on the head when it comes to the relief that can (sometimes unexpectedly) go hand-in-hand with heartbreak. It’s a funny paradox, isn’t it? It hurts, but there can also be a feeling of freedom. Check out Macy’s take:
PK2U,
Ellie
