Can I hold on to my dear fuckbuddy while searching for my soulmate?

Can you? Sure, as long as there are no feelings between you two. I think you should be honest with him about you looking for your Mr. Right though so there are no surprises when you find him & end things with him (Mr. Right Now). But remember...time that you spend with your boy toy is time that you're not finding your soul mate. You never know when or where it will happen!

(01-26-2012 11:04 AM)sugarcookie Wrote:  Can you? Sure, as long as there are no feelings between you two. I think you should be honest with him about you looking for your Mr. Right though so there are no surprises when you find him & end things with him (Mr. Right Now). But remember...time that you spend with your boy toy is time that you're not finding your soul mate. You never know when or where it will happen!

Well, my boytoy shows me the energy and expansiveness that I want in a long term soul mate - he feels like a pointer to me!

Does that make sense?

Actually, this conversation is helping me find clarity.

so thanks!

more comments welcome!

Yeah, I think you need to be able to sit down with your "Friend With Benefits" and say, "Just so you know I am still looking for my soulmate. And when I find him/her I will let you know." And if they're OK with that, then it should be fine.

yes good advice; I can say that to him and he is supportive. So great convo everyone.