My ex Broke up with me almost 2 years ago. After the breakup he never called or wrote or contacted me period and I had to get over him cold turkey. I eventually got over him but starting last month he called me and has been asking to see me and hang out with me. Unfortunately going against my better judgement I did hang with him and now I feel that all the progress I made has gone out the window. I'm single and he has a girlfriend but he basically hasn't mentioned her since since we hooked back up again. I don't think we will get back together bc I don't think I could ever trust him again, but I feel Like we have some sort of magnetic pull towards each other that I can't fight if that makes sense. How do I release him again and get back to how my life was prior to this? We were best of friends and I want us to be friends but sadly I fear that's not possible. I just need all sorts of help to get me outta this mess!!!

You basically have to do exactly what you did 2 years ago to get over him. Stay busy and focus on other things in your life. Avoid his texts/emails/calls. Personally, I can't be friends with an ex because there are too many emotions involved that will come out sooner or later that I rather not deal with. I feel like having an ex in my life sometimes takes me backwards instead of forwards. It seems like you are the same because you are already confused as to what's happening with your emotions. That "magnetic pull" is totally normal with an ex. You have to try to fight it especially since you already mentioned that you can't trust him. That's one of the biggest reasons that you might have to just tell him that you can't be friends with him. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure there are people that are fine being 'friends" with an ex but to me, it just slows down your healing process. (Did he tell you why he contacted you 2 years down the lane esp when he has a gf?)

Oh wow, that's really hard. It's hard to go from a couple to "just being friends" when you haven't seen him for two years. All those memories are going to come back. I would say the best thing to do is avoid him. Avoid hanging out as friends. It is soooooo hard, but it's worth it. You will heal that way. You will be able to focus on other stuff---i.e. living your life your way--instead of thinking about him. The less contact you have with him the better---I speak from experience! I followed people's "no contact" advice (not wanting to) and was pleasantly suprised that it does work! Why does he need you as a friend, when it's only going to mess with your heart? He's a big boy, surely he has other friends he can hang out with. I think it's selfish of him to expect you to be able to hang out as friends, when he didn't contact you for a year. I think you have every right to not contact him. And not provide a reason.