I joined a dating website last summer, was messaging with a guy who is really sweet, we exchanged numbers and we texted each other a bit and one day he just stopped texting well, about a month later ( i never deleted his name from my phone) i receive a text from him, im like what the hell does he want, so i play along with the texting being kinda aloof to him. Well , we kept texting, and to make a semi long story short, he asked me out a week before Thanksgiven, and we had a great time, he has since texted me every day numerous times in the day, but did not ask me out again, when i sort of questioned this he said we would go out again...so i figure it is what it is and no biggie, well one night in my drunken stupor and in our texting episodes, i suggest i stop over just to see what he would say, he says come over so i do, we chat i get ready to leave he grabs me and kisses me.. needless to say i didnt leave right away. Well, the texting continues, i see him one more night like that and same thing we have a great time together the sex is great and he is still texting and we had our last date 2 fridays ago, but since then i feel his texts have become less frequent and yes im starting to like this guy and not sure where i stand with him. He has said to me in the past he has had issues with relationships because he never has time, hence, he works 2 jobs and goes to school. am i being used i guess is my question and why would a guy keep texting you and contacting you if he wasnt interested in more than a booty call... so confused.

Unfortunately guys call & text you to keep you on the hook. They do it so when they do call for the booty call, you'll answer. If you like this guy, don't be afraid to be direct & ask him where you stand. Then hold him to his answer. If he says it's just a casual thing, infrequent texts & calls are ok. But if he wants to get serious, he needs to call you every day. Otherwise it's 1 of 2 things--he isn't serious, or he wants to be serious, but doesn't have the time. And if he was serious, he'd make the time. Don't waste your time on a "maybe" when you deserve a "yes!"

Thanks Sugar cookie, but ironically i think i got my answer today... i asked when i could see him again, and even said my treat for dinner ! and, i got a text but it wasnt for me, it wasnt bad.. but i believe it brought to light the gut feeling i was having, he slowed his texts down, with me cause he was obviously texting someone else... =/ I guess that is "casual dating" but ... i thought this one was different and wouldnt play games..

Yeah I hear you. Been there done that. Just work out what you want. If you're up for some "casual dating" roll with it, if it's committment you want, give this guy the flick. It's hard isn't it? And it hurts, but you'll soon move past this guy.