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How do you find the courage to date again?

Ladies!

For more than two years I’ve been adamant about helping women get through heartbreak by forgetting their exes & finding their inner bombshells. I’ve never made a peep about how to get back out there and date again… until now.

Why? Because I honestly believe that the best thing to do when you’re fresh off a breakup is to spend some time on your own, resetting your priorities and embarking on your own adventures… fabulously unattached. I believe that we have to discover the strength we never knew we had within, and learn to love being independent, before we can find happiness.

BUT, I also believe that once the dust settles and you’ve blossomed into a bombshell, you deserve to be a die-hard romantic if you choose, and to search for life altering love. You deserve not to settle for less than awesome because amazing relationships do exist. And now, I’ve found someone who can help you find the courage to stand up for what you believe and have amazing dating adventures.

So, even though I rarely endorse people, I’m shouting from the rooftops about the oh-so incredible Jenn Burton. She is wise, irreverent and spot-on when it comes to helping women figure out how to create an entirely new kind of relationship on their own terms.  Her course, The Courage Kit, that starts in less than a week, is in-dept, profound & provacative. I can’t stress enough that if you’re ready to get back out there, this should be your first step.

To give you an idea of what you’ll learn from Jenn, here’s a taste:

The Step-By-Step Process for creating powerful attraction with men

The 3 Biggest Mistakes women make in the early stages of dating and how to avoid them

The Secret of The Irresistible Woman (and why it’s not so secret)

How to command his respect from day one. And keep it.

How to create and maintain the sizzling love life you’ve always wanted!

Check out her video here and sign up for a chat with her right this second. There are only 7 spots left and they’ll be gone before you can say, “go bombshell!”

And, most importantly, promise me you’ll chase your dreams without apology and never let fear be a reason you don’t put yourself out there in the world. That goes for dating, your career, anything in your life. Go on, be a bombshell in every sense of the word. I dare you.

xx

Ellie

5 Ways to Stop Obsessing Over Your Ex ~ Her Campus

Her Campus recently interviewed Ellie to gain her insights on getting over an ex. Check out what she had to share!

We totally get it: break-ups are tough. When it comes to bad break-ups, we collegiettes have all been there–curled up on the couch with a pint of Ben and Jerry’s, moping about our (now ex-) boyfriend and browsing though the newly posted pictures of him and his new girlfriend on Facebook. Getting over a break-up with your boyfriend is hard enough, but figuring out how to stop obsessing over him can be even harder. Maybe you constantly find yourself reaching for your cell phone to text him or you can’t seem to go anywhere without hearing Adele’s “Someone Like You” on the radio, but either way, you can’t get over him.

Regardless of what caused the split between you and your boyfriend, it’s understandable when you start to have hurt feelings and a sense of loss. Sometimes, you can fall into the trap of obsessing over the break-up, or even worse–reaching back out to him. But no matter what happened between you and your ex, it’s time to move on. So how do you start getting over the break-up (and him)? We consulted founder of Pink Kisses and expert on break-ups, Ellie Scarborough, to bring you the HC-approved guide to stop obsessing over your ex.

Read the full Her Capmus article HERE

And the winners are…

First of all, a huge shout out to each of the bombshells who were brave enough to share their story. We had an incredible crop to choose from, and it was a true honor to get to read each of the honest, open and delightful entries. So, a HUGE thanks to each of you who submitted posts for our “Next PK VOICE” contest. Each of you has something incredibly valuable to share.

But, we could only choose 5 winners. It was a tough call, and a lot of thought went into making the choices.

::DRUMROLL PLEASE::

and the winners are:
Lori Stillman
Carly Rowe
Cathy Benavides
A’riel Tinter
Rachel Dooley

Congratulations, ladies! Your words are going to do wonders for the PK community and beyond. Thank you for having the courage to speak up. Some stories made us cry, others made us laugh, but they’re all wildly inspiring. Now it’s our pleasure to share these treats with bombshells everywhere.

Stay tuned, starting next Thursday we’ll be honoring each of our winners by posting their incredible stories once a week. We can’t wait! Can you?

pk2u,

The PK Team

Last Chance! Enter the PK VOICE contest today!

Ladies! You. Rock. We already have amazing entries that we’re reading through. We absolutely love what you bombshells have to say!

If you still have something you want to share, you have until midnight tonight to get submissions to us. Here’s a reminder of the rundown of the contest:

We’re looking for the next PK Voice! No, you don’t have to get on stage and we don’t have Christina Aguilera as one of our judges. Our version is even more badass. We’re looking for bombshells far and wide to be the voice of PK by sharing on our oh-so popular blog. Have a great story of survival? Sweet! Do something lately that scared you? Perfect. Have an interesting perspective on the latest celeb gossip? Dish. Finding strength within you didn’t realize you had? Yes ma’am, we want to hear from you.

Here’s how it works:

• Choose a topic. Think about what you wanted to hear when going through a breakup. Here are some good examples: celeb splits, survival stories, sage advice, the ex files (reflections on past relationships), finding your inner bombshell, etc.
  
• Write up a post, 500 words minimum.
  
• Submit by emailing your post to claire@pinkkisses.com with the subject “PK Voice” by midnight on May 23rd.
  
• We will choose up to 5 winners, depending on the awesomeness of the entries
  
• Winners will receive these awesome prizes: pk tank, compact, koozie and your very own spot on the PK blog
• To be eligible, you must agree to these Terms & Conditions
  

Ready, set, go!

xx

Ellie & the PK team

The Do’s and Don’ts of Staying Friends with an Ex

We’ve all been there. That fateful moment after a breakup where someone attempts to soften the blow by asking, “We can still be friends, right?” As much as we crave that comfort, there are plenty of reasons that attempting to stay friends is a bad idea. This week Ellie contributed her two cents on the issue, alongside other advice from experts,  to Heather Rinder at Her Campus, the online community for college women. Check out the article below:

After a break-up it’s easy to not only feel hurt and upset, but lonely too. You’ve spent a significant amount of time with a person who is suddenly no longer in your life, either in the same way, or at all. It’s natural to want to maintain a relationship with that person – calling them, finding ways to bump into them during the day, or planning “casual” lunch dates. Sometimes, though, this is exactly the opposite of what you need.

Her Campus spoke with relationship and break-up experts Dan Lier, of AskDanandMike.com, Ellie Scarborough, of PinkKisses.com, Dr. Ish. Major, of LittleWhiteWhys.com, and Dr. D. Ivan Young, author of Break up, Don’t Break Down for tips on when it’s OK to contact him, and when you have to just let go.

Here we list the do’s and don’ts of staying friends with an ex.

Don’ts:

Don’t enter into a “friendship” if you still feel romantic love.
Scarborough suggests a no-contact rule for at least 90 days after the break-up. “Instead of putting your energy into trying to be friends with the person you just broke up with, put that energy into other relationships like friends and family who you might have neglected a bit during the relationship,” she says.

Click here to read the full article

The VOICE, bombshell style!

We’re looking for the next PK Voice! No, you don’t have to get on stage and we don’t have Christina Aguilera as one of our judges. Our version is even more badass. We’re looking for bombshells far and wide to be the voice of PK by sharing on our oh-so popular blog. Have a great story of survival? Sweet! Do something lately that scared you? Perfect. Have an interesting perspective on the latest celeb gossip? Dish. Finding strength within you didn’t realize you had? Yes ma’am, we want to hear from you.

Here’s how it works:

• Choose a topic. Think about what you wanted to hear when going through a breakup. Here are some good examples: celeb splits, survival stories, sage advice, the ex files (reflections on past relationships), finding your inner bombshell, etc.
  
• Write up a post, 500 words minimum.
  
• Submit by emailing your post to claire@pinkkisses.com with the subject “PK Voice” by midnight on May 23rd.
  
• We will choose up to 5 winners, depending on the awesomeness of the entries
  
• Winners will receive these awesome prizes: pk tank, compact, koozie and your very own spot on the PK blog

Ready, set, go!

xx

Ellie  & the PK team

Men and Women can’t be friends… Sorry!

I love a good argument. It’s kinda bad. If I’m having drinks with friends it’s especially bad. It usually starts with a statement and I’ll find a side of arguing and won’t budge…even if there’s plenty of gray area in which I could compromise.  But no, arguing tends to be a sport for me: you either win or lose.

The point is I like to stir up a little controversy now and then. So hold on to your hats, because I have one to lay on ya…and I know at least half of you will disagree with me on this one.

An independent filmmaker went around Utah State asking people if men and women can be friends. After watching this video, I believe this guy is right: men and women can’t be just friends…

We’ve seen this answer to be true over and over in the movies: Friends with Benefits, No Strings Attached, Something Borrowed…the list goes on.

What do you think? What has your experience been with being just friends with guys (or even exes)?

P.S. (I actually concede to most things later…I’m really more open-minded than petty arguments, I promise).

pk2u,
Claire

What if you’re falling for your best friend’s ex?

Say you’re falling for your best friend’s ex. You love your best friend, but you’ve gotten signals from her ex that have developed into a little crush. Seems complicated, right?

Think again.

The answer to this dilemma couldn’t be more simple. Click here to see the advice I dished out for this exact situation. And, if you want more, here’s a video I created about knowing when a guy is off limits:

Read the full blog post here.

xx,

Ellie

{media bombshell is born}

Darling bombshells! I’m so excited to share a brand new chapter of the Bombshell story with all of you. It’s all about doing what you love the most and sharing it with passion & purpose.

This week, I launched Media Bombshell as a whole new project to help women find their inner bombshells.  Check out the video on my homepage that explains my unique view on why every person with a business, an opinion or a cause needs to be using a camera to share their story. And, find out why Media Bombshell is an extension of my bombshell brand here.

See, about a month after launching Pink Kisses, I appeared on the TODAY Show with Kathie Lee and Hoda and pretty much right after that I started getting asked by other entrepreneurs, friends and even complete strangers one very simply question:

How do you do so well on camera?

Since then, I’ve appeared in & on countless other media outlets. But perhaps what I love the most are my video blogs, where I get to speak directly from me to you, and share advice, insights and tools for getting over heartbreak. I always try to keep it simple. I try to be authentic, to share from the heart. And I try to make every video with a clear purpose in mind. That purpose? Serving the fabulous community of women that are so loyal and active here on Pink Kisses.

Now, I’m teaching the techniques I’ve used to build my bombshell business. My plan is to help women everywhere master their message and know their purpose. My goal is to help them find their voices and share their stories through the power of video & media. My hope is that I’ll also be able to help them find confidence & poise that is buried deep within… and help their bombshells shine.

So, this is my next adventure. What’s yours? I believe that we should all be chasing our dreams at full speed… and making sure we’re holding each other to it. Know what I’d love for you to do? Tell me exactly what dream you’re chasing, what giant leap you’re taking, in the space below this blog. Let’s continue creating the bombshell revolution right here. Right now.

xx

Ellie

It’s Music Monday & We’re Remembering Whitney

So often when we’re going through a breakup we naturally focus on songs that are written about getting over a guy or trashing his car or seeing him with someone new. It’s an easy way to let go of emotion. But! Here at Pink Kisses, we believe in shifting the focus onto your future instead of your past.

No one has done it better than Whitney Houston in this powerful song:

Thank you, Whitney, for reminding us that the greatest love starts within.

xx

Ellie