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My Valentine’s gift to you……

Bombshells!

I want you to make me a promise right now. I don’t waste one second thinking about what your life isn’t today… instead, focus on all of the amazing people in your life, all of the adventures you have ahead of you and all of the freedom you have to make your life whatever you want it to be.

My gift to you is this little video with a whole fresh perspective on tackling Valentine’s Day solo:

Your gift to me? Leaving a comment below with one thing you love about your life, right this second.

xx

Ellie

pkrx ~ hug like you mean it

Happy holidays, bombshells!

Here’s something I want you to think about today: when was the last time you gave a real hug?

Today I want to talk about real hugs, reflection & being honest. Here’s my two cents:

Make a decision today to start giving hugs like you actually mean it. And, while you’re at it, try telling some awesome people in your life exactly what they mean to you.

xx

Ellie

don’t be a turkey!

It’s easy during the holidays to get wrapped up in everything we don’t have. There’s a lot of pressure to have the perfect partner, to make enough money to give the perfect gifts, to have perfect relationships with every single one of our family members. Guess what? No one is perfect and we all have ways we can grow. Still, the heart of the holidays should be about recognizing what you do have and continuing to find ways to appreciate that more.

So, this Thanksgiving, I’m taking a little different stance on what I want you to be thankful for and how I want you to show it.

Here’s my two cents:

To top it off, there’s an incredible effect when you make others feel loved and appreciated. You feel the same, if not more, in return. Give it a try. At some point this weekend pick up a pen and start writing. Then, come tell me all about it.

xx

Ellie

Good enough isn’t actually good enough.

Remember that time you stayed with what’s-his-name for 9 months too long? Remember that awesome job you almost took, but decided to stay with something comfortable? Remember when you thought about moving to that new funky part of town, but the idea of boxes and scary junk drawers caused you to stay put?

We’ve all done it. Even though we may try with all of our might not to go with the status quo and get caught up in what’s comfortable, we sometimes settle for good enough because we forget that we don’t have to be stuck. Today, my challenge is clear, whether you’re settling for good enough in your career, relationship, or even at the gym, take a stand. Make a change. Decide today that you’re not going to do good enough in any part of your life. Be a bombshell.

I obviously chose to challenge myself or I wouldn’t be writing this to you today. How are you going to say goodbye to good enough today?

xx

Ellie

decoding mixed messages

Let’s dive right into the good stuff:

Listen, bombshell, these mixed messages only show two things in my book:

1. Your ex had a pretty sweet deal going when the two of you were together and he was able to do whatever he wanted on the side. I’m 100% sure he wouldn’t be opposed to doing that all over again. BUT… why would you want any of that back?

2. Sure, it always feels fantastic when an ex says he misses you and wants you back. All of those reasons that you fell for him to begin with rise to the surface and all of those not-so-awesome qualities are forgotten. In this case, it’s clear that this guy still isn’t making you his top priority. If he was really worried about what’s best for you, he’d leave you alone. For good.

The best part? You get to decide what happens next. Like I said, any guy sending mixed messages is probably confused himself. So, it’s your choice. You can walk away and continue on your new, incredible journey or you can let him back in your life.

My vote: stay strong and keep creating a healthier future for yourself. If the right guy comes along, there will be absolutely no doubt in your mind what he wants or why.

xx

Ellie

pkRx ~ give yourself permission

Let’s face it ~ sometimes we feel like we can’t be the ones to end it.

Breaking off a relationship is tough. We feel guilty, we don’t want to give up. Sometimes we feel like we can’t make the decision to leave, like the other person has to be the one to say it’s over.

I want you to take back that power, today. If you’re in a relationship that just isn’t working and it’s time to walk away, don’t wait for him to tell you that you can… do it on your own terms. Give yourself permission.

Here’s my two cents:

Want will you give yourself permission to do today?

pk2u,

Ellie

can you feel the heat?

Hey bombshells!

I am so incredibly psyched to share this with you… it’s my shiny new sizzle reel fresh out of the editing suite. I’m not exactly sure how a sizzle reel got it’s name, but let’s pretend it’s because the compilation of media clippings is so damn hot it sizzzzzzzzzzzzles. So, does my sizzle reel live up to it’s name? You tell me.

Here’s the best part, though… I’m so incredibly grateful that I’ve had the opportunity to learn about so many awesome women over the last year (pssssst ~ I’m talking about you!), to be a part of your struggles and triumphs, and to (hopefully) make a difference in your lives by inspiring and encouraging each of you to make your future an amazing adventure & live your dreams a little more each day.

So, thank you.

And, without further ado, my sizzle reel:

pk2u,

Ellie

pkRx: spend your time wisely

So, it’s over. Like officially, 100% done. And now, all you want to do is sit around and think about things you’ll never have, the future that will never unfold like you thought, or the guy you’ll never walk down the aisle with… Guess what? Dwelling on the past post-breakup is a form of self-torture. Seriously.

Here’s my two cents:

How about right now you decide to take 20 minutes, sit down with a blank piece of paper, and start writing down all of the things you want to do with your new free time? Draw your future, one passion at a time. Then, make a decision to start spending time, each day, getting closer to your dreams? Do it. Now.

What, exactly, are you going to do tomorrow to start changing your life?

pk2u,

ellie

survival stories ~ melanie ~

Sometimes, when you’re stuck in a rut after a relationship, it’s hard to imagine life will ever get back to normal or be fun again. Guess what? We’re here to show you that life after a split can be a grand adventure.

Today I’m sharing the story of a certified Pink Kisses bombshell named Melanie. She’s twenty years old, adorable, bright and full of moxie. She was in a serious relationship (promise ring & everything) with a close friend turned boyfriend when, out of the blue, he said he wanted out. Melanie shares how she, like a true bombshell, slowly began creating her new life without him in it & even managed to have a little fun in the process.

So! If you’re deep in the aftermath of a tough breakup, figure out one (even small) way you can reclaim something in your life today that you gave up for your ex. Melanie rediscovered purple. What’s your thing?

pk2u,

ellie

pkRx: change your perspective

When I was in high school, I got in trouble for having a party at my mom’s house when she was out of town. In retrospect, I don’t blame my parents for getting so tremendously pissed off… the entire junior class showed up with two kegs and all sorts of other contraband. It was a hell of a party. My girlfriends tried to ensure the cops wouldn’t be called, so they approached every neighbor on our entire block to let them know I’d be having a birthday party (5 months before my birthday). Still, the cops showed up. We were totally busted. And I was grounded for 2 months.

2 months!!! I was absolutely sure my life was over. 100%. I cried all the time, begged my mom to let me do anything aside from sit in my room without access to tv, phone or internet (which only existed in computer labs at school, anyway). My high school reputation was ruined. I went from being the coolest kid in school to the lame girl who wasn’t allowed to leave her house. I shrieked when my mom would explain that grounding me was the best thing she could do for me.

Now, I get it. She was teaching me a lesson even though I had zero desire to learn it at the time. And, I did learn… despite myself.

Sometimes, the end of a relationship can feel a lot like getting grounded. You’re in exile, alone and angry about missing out on the life you think you should be experiencing. Sometimes, you’re forced to learn lessons about yourself & your relationships against your will. These lessons can be some of the toughest, but they can also be the most rewarding. Being challenged is what makes us stronger and forces us to grow. Going through a breakup can be the ultimate challenge.

Here’s my two cents:

Sometimes,  you can let go of yucky old feelings and embark on a shiny new journey just by changing the way you look at things. Why not try on a new perspective for a day? You just might fall in love with it.

pk2u,

ellie