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Holiday tips for girls flying solo!

Contrary to popular thought, the holidays aren’t nearly as cozy a time for couples as we’re led to believe: a recent study showed a spike in Facebook users changing their status to “single” in December more than any other time of year.  So, what’s a girl to do if you find yourself solo this time of year? Here are three easy ways to celebrate on your own terms:

Party smart.

Choose your celebrations wisely.  It’s perfectly okay to stay away from parties full of couples that just make you feel like crap. There’s nothing wrong with saying no when you know it will save your sanity. If you’re seriously in the hostess zone, consider throwing a holiday party of your own and only invite singles – no couples allowed… or invite couples, but tell them you’ll only let them in if they bring a single friend.  It’s all about watering down the sea of “we’s.”

Give the ultimate gift.

Sure, your sadness is understandable if you’ve just gone through a breakup. No matter how much despair you might be in, though, somebody out there has it worse than you.  Someone in the world could benefit from your empathy rather than your apathy. So, splurge on some toys and donate them to charity.  Even better: donate your time to a non-profit organization (Meals on Wheels, Salvation Army) that needs extra hands this December.  No plans on Christmas Day?  Volunteer at a soup kitchen.  And don’t just sayyou’ll do it… actually do it.  The rewards are in the act itself, the perspective you’ll gain from it, and the smile you’ll put on someone else’s face.

Create your own traditions.

How’s this for a fresh perspective: you don’t need a mate to be happy this season. While everyone is focused on family traditions, why not create some of your own? Instead of foraging for a plus one because of societal pressures, why not dive into the relationship you already have that matter the most to you? Look at your friendships & relationships with family members and figure out how to be better at each one. How about taking new years resolutions to the next level? Use the holidays as a time to reflect on exactly where you are in your life, where you want to be & how you’re going to get there. Or, start living your passions. Dive headfirst into that novel you’ve been wanting to write, that trip you’ve wanted to take or whatever else you’ve been putting off, but are longing to do.

Do it now, as a holiday present to yourself.

xx

Ellie

Happy Thanksgiving Bombshells! Be Thankful!

It’s easy during the holidays to get wrapped up in everything we don’t have. There’s a lot of pressure to have the perfect partner, to make enough money to give the perfect gifts, to have perfect relationships with every single one of our family members. Guess what? No one is perfect and we all have ways we can grow. Still, the heart of the holidays should be about recognizing what you do have and continuing to find ways to appreciate that more.

So, this Thanksgiving, I’m taking a little different stance on what I want you to be thankful for and how I want you to show it.

Here’s my two cents:

To top it off, there’s an incredible effect when you make others feel loved and appreciated. You feel the same, if not more, in return. Give it a try. At some point this weekend pick up a pen and start writing. Then, come tell me all about it.

xx

Ellie

PKRX: Take back your free time!

Oh, time. You’re such a silly thing. Right after a breakup, you know exactly how to stand still and drive a girl crazy. Here are some of our best secrets on how to take back all that free time (and reclaim your life while you’re at it).

pk2u,

ellie

It’s Music Monday, f*ck you very very much!

We kind of can’t stop listening to this lovely little jingle by Lily Allen. It’s, well, awesome. And hilarious. And weird. Check it out:

pk2u!

Ellie dishes to HaveHimYourWay.com

This week Ellie sat down to share her breakup advice with the amazing Jenn Burton, the creator of HaveHimYourWay.com. Think of Jenn’s website as the step you take after Pink Kisses, so that you can confidently launch yourself out there into the dating world. It was a fun conversation between two fabulous women who are helping women move forward and take control of their lives, so be sure you check out the whole thing…

Okay, we’ve all been there… well most of us have. Left absolutely devastated and broken hearted. Mine happened in Mexico, his name was Saul. And yes I spent an entire month in bed because of him. I’m not exaggerating.

Breakups suck no matter how you spin them. Remember the morning after, that completely empty feeling you wake up with? Where you feel like your stomach is in your chest, and life no longer has any sweetness to it.

Lots of us stay in miserable relationships just to avoid the morning after…

Read the full post here.

My Valentine’s gift to you……

Bombshells!

I want you to make me a promise right now. I don’t waste one second thinking about what your life isn’t today… instead, focus on all of the amazing people in your life, all of the adventures you have ahead of you and all of the freedom you have to make your life whatever you want it to be.

My gift to you is this little video with a whole fresh perspective on tackling Valentine’s Day solo:

Your gift to me? Leaving a comment below with one thing you love about your life, right this second.

xx

Ellie

pkrx ~ hug like you mean it

Happy holidays, bombshells!

Here’s something I want you to think about today: when was the last time you gave a real hug?

Today I want to talk about real hugs, reflection & being honest. Here’s my two cents:

Make a decision today to start giving hugs like you actually mean it. And, while you’re at it, try telling some awesome people in your life exactly what they mean to you.

xx

Ellie

don’t be a turkey!

It’s easy during the holidays to get wrapped up in everything we don’t have. There’s a lot of pressure to have the perfect partner, to make enough money to give the perfect gifts, to have perfect relationships with every single one of our family members. Guess what? No one is perfect and we all have ways we can grow. Still, the heart of the holidays should be about recognizing what you do have and continuing to find ways to appreciate that more.

So, this Thanksgiving, I’m taking a little different stance on what I want you to be thankful for and how I want you to show it.

Here’s my two cents:

To top it off, there’s an incredible effect when you make others feel loved and appreciated. You feel the same, if not more, in return. Give it a try. At some point this weekend pick up a pen and start writing. Then, come tell me all about it.

xx

Ellie

Good enough isn’t actually good enough.

Remember that time you stayed with what’s-his-name for 9 months too long? Remember that awesome job you almost took, but decided to stay with something comfortable? Remember when you thought about moving to that new funky part of town, but the idea of boxes and scary junk drawers caused you to stay put?

We’ve all done it. Even though we may try with all of our might not to go with the status quo and get caught up in what’s comfortable, we sometimes settle for good enough because we forget that we don’t have to be stuck. Today, my challenge is clear, whether you’re settling for good enough in your career, relationship, or even at the gym, take a stand. Make a change. Decide today that you’re not going to do good enough in any part of your life. Be a bombshell.

I obviously chose to challenge myself or I wouldn’t be writing this to you today. How are you going to say goodbye to good enough today?

xx

Ellie

decoding mixed messages

Let’s dive right into the good stuff:

Listen, bombshell, these mixed messages only show two things in my book:

1. Your ex had a pretty sweet deal going when the two of you were together and he was able to do whatever he wanted on the side. I’m 100% sure he wouldn’t be opposed to doing that all over again. BUT… why would you want any of that back?

2. Sure, it always feels fantastic when an ex says he misses you and wants you back. All of those reasons that you fell for him to begin with rise to the surface and all of those not-so-awesome qualities are forgotten. In this case, it’s clear that this guy still isn’t making you his top priority. If he was really worried about what’s best for you, he’d leave you alone. For good.

The best part? You get to decide what happens next. Like I said, any guy sending mixed messages is probably confused himself. So, it’s your choice. You can walk away and continue on your new, incredible journey or you can let him back in your life.

My vote: stay strong and keep creating a healthier future for yourself. If the right guy comes along, there will be absolutely no doubt in your mind what he wants or why.

xx

Ellie