Pink Kisses

Guest blogger Valeka proves sometimes “it’s not ME, it’s you!”

ellie — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 11:00:33 +0000

I knew I liked blogger Valeka Cruz when we started flirting on Twitter… then she wrote me an email, telling me about her badass blog, thanking me for doing what we’re doing & explaining how we helped her get through her own tough heartbreak. I loved that she had the confidence to simply ask if she could write a guest blog, so I couldn’t resist. My response? “Absolutely, bombshell!” & I’m so thrilled I said yes. Boy, does she have some crazy powerful things to say. Read on, ladies, and be inspired.

xx,

ellie

In the dating and relationship world, few words can hurt as much as “it’s not you, it’s me.” The words enter our ears then travel to our heart, causing us to break down every shared moment in an attempt to make sense of it all. We dwell on what it is we could have possibly done or said to cause a person to say that dreaded phrase to us. We obsess over where we could have taken a misstep in the relationship. Were we not enough this? Too much that? Did we not do enough this and that?

Having heard those very words myself a few months ago, I was devastated. My soul was crushed. My spirit was splintered. But, I stepped back for a moment, put down the chocolate and realized that he was right – it wasn’t me. It wasn’t me because I am smart, sexy, talented, confident, amazing and special. The tears seized and I stopped trying to figure out what I could have done differently because there was nothing I could have done differently. I rebounded by reminding myself daily of just how wonderful I was. Some days it was harder to believe than others but I still made it a point of giving myself those affirmations. I realized that if he couldn’t handle all that I am, then he was NOT the one for me.

I still make it a point to tell myself three positive things about myself every day. I carry those things with me throughout my day as a sort of invisible shield from negativity. Hearing those five little words from this gentleman empowered me to reconnect with all the things I love about myself. As I result, I am persuing my lifelong dream of writing a novel. I also rediscovered my confidence and used that boldness to approach one of my favorite websites about being a guest blogger (thank you Pink Kisses!).

Always remember – a true bombshell never shrinks or doubts herself. Hold true to who you are because who you are is a woman filled with all kinds of fabulousity, some realized and some that is yet to be discovered. Find power in your self. And if you happen to hear that hideous phrase from a guy, hold your head up and walk away telling yourself “it’s not ME, it’s you.”

Valeka Cruz is a freelance writer living happily in Austin Texas with her three fur babies. Her weekly blog, runningonheavy, provides health and wellness motivation along with life lessons. She loves chocolate, hiking, laughing and red lipstick (not necessarily in that order depending on what kind of a day it is).

It’s Music Monday & We’re Remembering Whitney

ellie — Mon, 20 Feb 2012 15:07:34 +0000

So often when we’re going through a breakup we naturally focus on songs that are written about getting over a guy or trashing his car or seeing him with someone new. It’s an easy way to let go of emotion. But! Here at Pink Kisses, we believe in shifting the focus onto your future instead of your past.

No one has done it better than Whitney Houston in this powerful song:

Thank you, Whitney, for reminding us that the greatest love starts within.

Ellie

Words to live by…

ellie — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 15:00:17 +0000

Go on, enjoy the adventures.

http://pinterest.com/givepinkkisses/inspiration/

Ellie

Ellie proves that heartbreak is the universal language

admin — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 17:12:36 +0000

Wow! Pink Kisses got a ton of love leading up to this Valentine’s Day & we thought we’d share a few highlights with you bombshells today… seems that heartbreak is a universal language & being single on Valentine’s Day is a hot topic. See? You’re truly not alone!

~Ellie’s chosen to be profiled in an Entrepreneur video series on CultureMap~

Ellie Scarborough of Pink Kisses: Building bombshells one woman at a time

by Caitlin Ryan

and here’s a little snippet:

“I had to use my skills as a journalist to be the best spokesperson on the planet for this,” Scarborough says. “In order to maintain and build dominance in this field, I had to be out there talking about this and doing it better than anyone else who had any kind of similar product.”

That kind of tenacity landed PK on the pages of the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, The Huffington Post, The Washington Post and on countless national news segments.

read the full article

~ Ellie visited Fox for a fun interview with anchor Keri Bellacosa~

Valentine’s Day for Singles

check it: Valentine’s Day for Singles: MyFoxAUSTIN.com

~Ellie’s named one of the top relationship bloggers in Austin~

Looking for love in all the wrong places? Meet Austin’s top dating/relationship bloggers

by Shelly Seale

one of Ellie’s quotes from the piece:

“I’m a firm believer in not trying to go anywhere or do anything just to meet a date. Live your life, follow your passions and be open to finding something valuable in every single person who crosses your path. If you’re chasing your dreams with your eyes wide open, you’re bound to meet incredible people.”

check out the full article

Whew. As you can imagine, we’re a bit worn out over here… but loving that the media took time to go a little deeper this Valentine’s Day and tell stories that weren’t the typical lovey-dovey mumbo jumbo. What moved us the most was the incredible response from our awesome community and how you ladies really stepped up and let your bombshell-ness shine. It’s official, we have the best job on the planet!!

the PK team

Words to Live by on Valentine’s Day

ellie — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 22:49:07 +0000

A little bonus love, just for all you bombshells:

Ellie

My Valentine’s gift to you……

ellie — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 15:29:20 +0000

Bombshells!

I want you to make me a promise right now. I don’t waste one second thinking about what your life isn’t today… instead, focus on all of the amazing people in your life, all of the adventures you have ahead of you and all of the freedom you have to make your life whatever you want it to be.

My gift to you is this little video with a whole fresh perspective on tackling Valentine’s Day solo:

Your gift to me? Leaving a comment below with one thing you love about your life, right this second.

Ellie

It’s Music Monday and Adele proves that Grammys are the best revenge

ellie — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 16:30:47 +0000

Hey bombshells! My valentine to you comes in the form of a twofer from the outrageously talented Adele. Not only did Adele have an incredible return to the stage after voice surgery just four months ago, but she went on to win 6 Grammy’s, including Album of the Year for 21 (her second album).Did you know that her entire album was written as a way for her to heal from her heartbreak? Love how she left that guy in the dust!

Now, grab a tissue, take a listen to Someone Like You and let it all out.

When Adele stepped on stage last night, she sounded amazing singing one of her best know tunes, Rolling in the Deep. It also just happens to be the very song she wrote the morning after her breakup with her ex. Last night, she also won Record of the Year thanks to that turning point in her life, so dry your tears and let the power of her voice fill you with the hope of all possibilities you have lying ahead.

In her acceptance speech, she even mentions the motivation behind her writing for the album about 40 seconds in…

See ladies? Adele is proof that when life hands you lemonade, you can turn it into a lovely lemondrop martini, 6 Grammys or anything else you choose.

Ellie

guest blogger Claire has two words for you: Valentine Schmalentine

Claire — Sun, 12 Feb 2012 16:59:20 +0000

I knew there was something special about Claire Rodriguez when she wrote for us a while back, telling us about Mexico’s possible marriage “trial period.” She gets Pink Kisses, innately understands what we stand for and she even has special superpower: the ability to cheer anyone up. It’s a crazy powerful thing, and you’ll see more of it as she continues to write for our blog. She’s got some great perspective just n time for Valentine’s Day:

At this point, you can’t avoid it. There are floating red and pink hearts everywhere, the restaurants have posted their special V-day menu and the radio won’t stop suggesting what you should do (last minute) for your sweetie.

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and I wanted to post a special note for you to get this commercial day off your back (with a little help from LaBelleVieDesign on Etsy):

Don’t let those shiny heart-shaped balloons get you down. There is nothing so incredibly special about this day that you’re missing out on. Besides, those balloons will be limp and lifeless soon anyway.

Take a cue from TODAY show’s lovely Kathie Lee:

“I’ve never loved Valentine’s Day. I think it’s kind of cruel…and I think it’s awfully expensive. You should be saying ‘I love you’ to that person in your life all the time. It’s just another time you have to spend money to prove to someone that you love them.”

It’s just another day. Share your love and care for the awesome people in your when you truly mean it or share a laugh over any other V-day gag gifts you might find. Who thought it was a good idea to give a flying baby in a diaper a bow & arrow anyway?

pk2u,

Claire

How to handle seeing your EX with poise & confidence…

ellie — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 11:00:48 +0000

Sure, the thought of seeing Mr. Wrong at this very second makes you a little sick to your stomach. That’s ok, you’re human. And, you may actually be one of the few women who never ever has to see him again in your entire life… but, I hate to say, that’s probably not the case.

So, instead of dreading it or avoiding the possibility or choosing not to be prepared, think again. but before you even think again, watch this:

Listen, you’re creating a brilliant new future for yourself. BUT ~ you have to keep in mind that your past might just creep in to your lovely new plan every once in a while. Don’t sweat it.

The goal is to recognize that this person had a big role in your life at one point, but now he doesn’t. Whether the breakup was your fault or his, whether you really want to punch him in the face, ignore him completely or beg for forgiveness, you have to realize that how you act is completely up to you. You can forgive him. You can move on. You can stop torturing yourself with what if. You can do anything you choose.

The conclusion? You have the power to be a total bombshell when you see him. So, what’s your plan?

Ellie

It’s Music Monday… Let’s Get Stronger

ellie — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 11:00:56 +0000

Know what? It’s been a while since we played a straight-up pop anthem for a Music Monday. So this week, look at little Kelly Clarkson, all grown up… and check out this awesome first verse:

You know, the bed feels warmer sleeping here alone

You know, I dream in color and do the things I want

You think you got the best of me, think you’ve had the last laugh

Betcha think that everything good is gone

You think you left me broken down, think that I’d come running back

Baby you don’t know me ’cause you’re dead wrong

xx,

Ellie